🎯 Today’s Mission:

To successfully complete today’s mission:

✅ Be your own biggest fan rather than biggest critic for a change.

✅ Write down, in your Mindset Journal, some of the negative self-talk scripts that you tell yourself often. Then, flip the script and write something more positive and encouraging instead.

✅ Complete the form at the bottom of the page when done.

🔗 [OPTIONAL] Share with us, in the 21-Day Mindset Challenge FB Support Group, how today’s mission is going for you.

💡 More Info:

Most of us are our own biggest critics.

We hold ourselves personally accountable for bad events that happen.

We berate ourselves and beat ourselves up every time we fail.

We layer on the guilt and self-loathing every time we make a mistake.

This can actually get really ugly at times, right?

We call ourselves horrendous and disgusting names.

We tell ourselves that we will never achieve our goals.

We even decide that we don’t deserve to be happy or successful.

All because we’re human. Not perfect.

Say it to 🗨️ someone else:

Imagine your best friend, or daughter, or brother, or mother was struggling…

Imagine they came to you and said that:

They were so sick of screwing up all the time.

They hate themselves and are useless.

They feel stupid for making the same mistake over and over again.

They want to punish themselves and find some way to repent for their mistakes.

They think they should just stop trying because at this point they don’t even deserve to be happy anymore.

What would you do?

Would you agree with them?

Would you help them beat themselves up?

Would you join them in calling them some creative ugly names?

Would you tell them to just give up and that they’re too stupid to do this?

No, we’re guessing that you wouldn’t do that at all.

In fact, you’d do the opposite, right?

You’d immediately defend them, you’d support them, you’d tell them it will be OK, you’d encourage them to try again, you’d lend them a helping hand and show them support.

So why don’t we do this with ourselves???????

If we would NEVER EVER say these kinds of horrible things to the people that we love and care about, why do we say them to ourselves?

Why are we our own biggest critics?

Negative self-talk doesn’t work:

Beating yourself up and talking negatively about yourself feels productive and like it will make you do better next time.

But in fact, the opposite is true.

Negative self-talk creates even more stress and even poorer performance.

It stops you from learning. It stops you from being creative. It stops you from problem-solving. It stops you from doing better.

Negative self-talk doesn’t make you better. It makes you worse.

It breaks you down. It makes you weaker.

It’s not a great strategy for success.

So here’s a crazy idea: What if you tried to do the opposite instead?

Be your own biggest fan:

Rather than being your own biggest critic… Try being your own biggest fan!

Rather than beating yourself up and making yourself worse… Try giving yourself a helping hand and cheering yourself on.

We’d like to challenge you to flip the script from talking so negatively about yourself to talking more positively.

Have some compassion and patience. Point out your past successes. Look for signs of progress no matter how small. Affirm to yourself that you can do better next time and that you can be successful.

If you aren’t sure of what to say, just imagine you were talking to a loved one who was struggling instead. What would you say to them? How would you make them feel?

Even if you can’t bring yourself to be overly positive, at the very least stop being such a jerk to yourself.