I believe that unless you have a very strong reason for change is it always going to be very hard firstly to make change and then even harder to make it stick in the long term.
And we are here for the long-term right?
So that word “WHY?” is going to come up a lot on this journey.
On the days that you lose your way. On the days you want to stop. Your WHY is your anchor.
The true North that you use to always find your way back to the path.
The best part is your reason is YOUR reason. Nobody elses.
It is entirely personal to you.
Maybe you want to play with your kids more?
Maybe you want to take up an physically demanding hobby or climb a mountain?
Maybe you want to look good naked and attract the opposite sex?
Your reasons are your reasons. That is the beauty. But they must mean something to you. That is the key.
SO an important question related to this topic is to ask yourself what do you value in life?
What’s most important to you in life? Why?
What kind of person do you want to be? Why?
Are you living those values? Chances are not as well as you’d like.
When we are not living the life we think that we should it will manifest physically and emotionally because there is incongruence.
Things are not matching up and out of sync.
We are not at ease…. In a state of dis-ease… misaligned.
Knowing what’s important to us and why gives us direction and purpose. That is what you need to stay on track in this journey.
What are Values? Simply they are your highest priorities.
As a tool to figure this out for yourself I love the questions Dr Demartini to get to the core of what you truly value right now.
Ask yourself these questions:
How do you spend your time?
How do you spend your energy?
How do you spend your money?
Where are you most organized?
What dominates your thoughts?
What do you most often talk to others about?
What inspires you?
Answering those questions will give you a really solid ideas of what you value right now.
Maybe it is family, health, money or a combination of all.
It is very possible that what you thought you valued is not entirely correct.
For example you may have believed you value your health but the answers to those questions show that not to be the case.
That is ok. One can close the gap with action.
Gandhi said that your actions express your values.
You can always use this exercise to keep things real and check in with yourself.
Do your actions match your values?
We are going to Use “The 5 Whys” to explore this.
The “5 Whys” was a system originally used by the Toyota Motor Corporation. It’s very simple and really cuts to the core of why we want something. It is used as an analytic tool in many industries.
When you want to accomplish something (or if something goes wrong), you ask one the first “WHY”.
Why do I want to accomplish this?
Then, with whatever answer you come up with, you ask why to that first answer.
And so on, five times.
I did the exercise and here is my own personal example
I want to be healthy, fit and attractive.
1. Why do you want to be healthy, fit and attractive? I want to be confident, youthful and have energy for life for as long as possible.
2. Why? Because I am not ready to get old and lose quality of life. I want to live not die. I want to attract a partner and maybe have a family one day. I want to rock my 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s.
3. And Why is that important to you? I feel like I have so much more to achieve in life in many areas and I need to be at my absolute best to do it. I believe health brings that.
4. So why is important for you to achieve more? I feel like it is my purpose and life vision to do so and be a positive role-model to others.
5. And why is it your purpose to do so? I want to make a difference in the world before I leave and have LIVED.
Now it is your turn.
Why do you want to get healthier?
Why is that reason for getting healthier important to you?
And why is that important?
And what difference will that make?
And why will that previous thing matter?