This is a topic I am extremely passionate about.
It is probably because in my former life I was an overweight, lazy, corporate workaholic and ALL I focussed on was advancing my career and climbing the corporate ladder… nothing else.
When I got there it was quite an anticlimax… and I was not happy.
I never invested in myself in any other area than my career.
Work, job security and increasing my earnings was all I was focussed on.
As a result my health suffered, my romantic relationships were poor and I had very little fun.
My priorities and values were ALL wrong.
So I achieved my goal. I had a high flying corporate position but little else to brag about in my life.
So I have experienced first hand what this means. I did not have the time, energy or space to give to anything else in my life.
So to break it down what does the statement “You cannot pour from an empty cup” actually mean?
Well, in life there are many areas we have to give to. We have to give to our partners. We have to give to our kids.
We have to give to our jobs. Beyond that to our communities and everything else.
If you are burned out, stressed, frazzled and spending your life constantly overwhelmed then you cannot give to any of those things with any power or impact.
If your cup is empty and you are running on empty you are in reality in a poor position to help yourself and to help others.
Another reason why I am very passionate about this topic is that we have so many mothers in this community.
So these are woman who in most cases are holding down serious jobs and run businesses and at the same time running a households with kids and partners – not to mention trying to stay healthy and have a social life.
The results is that mothers especially end up putting themselves last.
Biggest mistake ever
To be the best mom, partners, career-woman etc etc you need to put yourself FIRST.
You need to take the time, energy and resources to give yourself what you need to be strong so you can use that power in all your other interactions.
You need to invest in yourself as a person and give yourself what you need to be your best. It may not seem like it but EVERYONE is going to benefit.
So what does that mean?
It means go to that yoga session, go to that gym session, have that massage, organise that date night.
You get the picture.
For example in my life I NEED to exercise and eat healthy to be my best for EVERYONE.
When I am fit, strong and healthy my partner, my family and Sleekgeek and the community are better off.
I am coming from a strong centered place to give to them.
So never feel guilty about being selfish sometimes and putting yourself first.
It is an absolute irony but putting everyone else first all the time might be the most selfish thing you can actually do.
I am a firm believer that when you are healthy, strong and confident you do everything else better in life.
So the time and energy is WORTH IT.
If I had one wish it would be for you to fully get that!
Health is the real wealth and attaining and maintaining health will help you get what you want out of life.
In the next week set aside at least an hour for you – just for you – to do something for yourself you have been wanting to do for a while and putting off..
It does not have to be elaborate or expensive. That is up to you. It could be as simple as taking an hour from the family to read a book quietly in the corner.
Whatever makes your soul smile!
See you tomorrow!